Life As A Freelancing Mom | My Mompreneur Morning Routine

Guys! I just created two new things for you to check out!

I made an Instagram @littlemomlosesit where you can follow my fitness and wellness journey! 🙂

In the same vein, I created my OWN FB “Group Moms Losing It”, for other bad ass mamas who are living or transitioning into healthier lifestyles after baby. 

I figured it would be a really nice place for all of us to share our goals, experiences, recipes, fav exercises(all that BS) and keep each other motivated. So if you think that’d be fun, I’d love you to join.

Okay, let’s get on to the blog…


Hi Gang,

It’s been a little over a week before I weaned Jake off of breastmilk (I’ll get into those details in another post) and to be honest…

I feel really good.

I’m starting to not even feel guilty for admitting that, too.

Even in just this first week without pumping, my emotional and physical wellness have improved. Even though it was hard, with tears and a lot of meditation involved, it was still the best choice for my family.

That being said, today’s post will talk about my morning routine as a freelance copywriter and first-time mom.

It’s taken me 7 months, but I finally feel like I have a decent grip on how I plan my day to be productive as a business owner and as a loving mommy. I wanted to share my mompreneur morning routine in case someone might find it helpful or interesting.

Make My Bed

You’ve heard this one a trillion times before, and so did I.

But it does work. Every morning, regardless of what’s going on (short of an emergency, of course), I make my bed.

It isn’t always perfect, but at least I make it presentable.

I first heard the phrase: “Done is better than perfect” a few years ago.

And it actually really changed the way I view handling tasks like these. That added dose of productivity adds up and helps start my day off with a little “win”.

A small accomplishment that I can “check off” my to-do list.

Workout

So this is a new one since I stopped breastfeeding. My energy is a bit low, so I’ve been just trying to fit it into my day and not necessarily first thing in the AM.

However, in my defense(*excuse*), I’ve worked lots of late nights this week, so I plan to head to bed earlier in an attempt to be a morning person.

*blegh* Self-care is much harder than people say it is.

Anyway, I’m trying to lose some post-baby pudge, but I’m not gonna go nuts. I’m mainly focusing on changing my diet, and only working out for 30 mins 5-days a week. I actually love working out, but it’s one of those habits that I can easily fall in and out of. I’m excited to have the time to do it again.

Meditate

I’ve been meditating at least once a day (usually before I start my “workday”) for about three weeks.

I really love it. I really recommend it. Especially in these 2020-ass times, it’s been an enormous help in keeping me grounded, cope with any anxiety, and learn how to focus.

I only practice my meditation for 10 minutes at a time, but it’s an essential part of my day.

Get Dressed

*slow clap*

Listen, when you work from home… and have spent the last 5 fucking months in quarantine because POS grown adults are too selfish and stupid to wear a fucking mask

Getting dressed is actually something that requires effort. Especially by me, as I lack style.

I heard one of my idols, Tarzan Kay, talk about how, even though she works from home, she always gets dressed like she’s going somewhere.

She said it built her confidence and made her feel good, and I really thought that was a great idea.

Since I have a messy 8-month-old, I’m not wearing anything “cute” right now, but I always make sure to change out of my PJs and into something I wouldn’t be embarrassed to go out in public in.

It’s another one of those “self-care” things that help these abnormal days feel a little normal-er.

Plan Out My Work Day

I use Trello to help me organize what my workday will be like. I create a board/card for each day of the week, then create a “check-list” inside each card.

Each entry on the list is a project and an estimated time-block I devote to it. It doesn’t always match up, being that I’ve got a precious little bean to love and care for, but it’s helpful for sure.

Just having everything organized and easy to “check-off” alleviates my anxiety and helps me focus.

I use a free online app called “Toggl” to track my time and stay accountable. It lets me get a realistic idea of how long a particular project will take and make sure I set a boundary for when to stop.

My current schedule usually consists of a 6-hour workday, 4- 5 days a week. But I really try to stick to 4-days because I want to devote the other days to Jake and other hobbies.

Taking that break is CRUCIAL for me to do my job effectively.

Don’t get me wrong, running my own business means that I’ll work my fair share of late nights.

However, setting a plan for the day lets me say: “I’m done” without stressing that I forgot something.

Drink 40 Oz Of Water

I have a 32 Oz Contigo (I only mention the brand because it’s my favorite) water bottle that I fill up and finish before lunchtime. I don’t allow myself a cup of coffee until I drink at least 32 oz of water. I don’t worry about those last 8 oz, because I know between lunch and dinner I’ll drink that and then some.

Drinking enough water is a hard habit to form, but it really makes me feel better and will help with my weight-loss goals.

Look In A Mirror & Compliment Myself

Old Kenz would’ve found this lame… new Kenz still kinda does. But that’s all the more reason I make myself do it. 

Once a day, I force myself to stand in front of a mirror (which has always been a struggle in itself) and tell myself one or two things I did well that day.

I’ve always been self-deprecating (as most of us are), but I realized how unhelpful that was in every aspect of my life.

Most importantly, I don’t want Jake to imitate that behavior. So, to teach him to love himself, I am learning to love myself.

It’s a rocky relationship, it’s gonna take time, but I’m not gonna give up.

Follow A Strict-ish Waking And Feeding Schedule

I work hard to keep Jake on a predictable sleeping and eating schedule. Jake wakes up between 7:45 AM and 8:15 AM, and we immediately change his diaper and eat our breakfast.

Then, Jake plays with his toys and watches Disney Jr. while I start my workday until it’s time for his nap around 10:00 AM to 10:30 AM.

He’ll usually sleep until 12-12:30 PM, giving me a substantial chunk of time to focus on my work.

We immediately eat lunch (I also break my fast because I am doing Intermittent Fasting). 

Afterward, Jake plays and enjoys Puppy Dog Pals while I work.

His second nap is up in the air, but he usually goes back down between 2:30 PM -3:00 PM and will sleep anywhere from an hour or more.

My husband is usually home before Jake wakes up, so they’ll enjoy some QT while I finish any work I have left.

I try to be done by 3-3:30 PM, but that doesn’t always work out.

Now, this schedule came with effort and age. The older Jake got, the easier it was. In his early months, I could barely put him down (obviously), so don’t stress yourself out if you have less time than you like. 

What’s important is that you be a mommy and enjoy all of that good stuff.

The rest will work itself out.

That’s Pretty Much It

Yeah, it’s nothing groundbreaking, but I’m a routine girl, and having this schedule works great for Jake and me. 

Sleep-training is the only way I made this work

If you’re considering sleep-training and want some insight into my own experience and little-to-no-cry sleep-training techniques, you can check them out here.

I also have blogs about 5 Survival Tips For Mompreneurs and Work-From-Home Moms and 12 baby products that helped me survive Jake’s first 6 months. So check those out if you want!

I send you a plethora of good vibes in this trying time. 

And remember:

Black Lives Matter

Wear A Mask

Vote

Stay Safe, stay sassy

-Kenz

5 Survival Tips For Mompreneurs and Work-From-Home Moms

If you’re just here for the ice cream, click here for the recipe.

There has been nothing more rewarding (excluding motherhood, obviously) than the life-change I’ve made to start my own business as a Full-Time copywriter.

While scary, it has allowed me to be fully present with my son every day. I can be there for all of his firsts, and I never forget how privileged I am to be able to do that.

On a personal (Kenz-level), I’ve been able to find the value in what I have to offer professionally. Finding my path has had such an incredible impact on my self-esteem and mental health. I’m so grateful for everything that has allowed me to do that.

And yeah, I’m even learning how to include myself in that gratitude. I’m learning how to appreciate my courage and work ethic that helps me pursue my goals each day.

It is true, though, trying to juggle a career and motherhood can be a bit overwhelming. 

I totally feel the anxiety and worry that I’m not “doing enough”. I’m not working enough. I’m not mothering enough.

But, a huge part of my journey is learning to cope with my anxiety-driven tendencies. To live in the moment. To appreciate what I have right now without worrying about ‘the bad thing’ that could be coming up to destroy it.

That isn’t easy. 

At all. 

But it’s possible.

I wanted to share the daily steps I take to grow my emotional strength and practice self-care. And, no, I’m not talking about the “treat yo’ self and bath bombs” kind of self-care.

-Not that I don’t whole-heartedly support and partake in that, as well.

But in this post, I’m talking about the ‘hard, emotional work’ version of self-care. The uncomfortable and adventurous self-care that we need to grow.

The “You’re responsible for your own happiness” self-care.

So, make sure to save that bath bomb for the end, my guy.

Meditation | How I Am Learning To Focus On The Moment

Meditation is actually very difficult. If you’ve never done it, it might seem like you just sit there with your eyes closed and do nothing.

And you know what, that’s precisely what you are supposed to do.

But you’d be surprised how incredibly difficult it is to focus on your meditation.

Before I know it- despite my best effort- my mind starts wandering.

“I have to do X.”

“what if I mess this up?”

“WHY DO I SUCK SO MUCH AT MEDITATING?”

Even so, I try my best to implement meditation at least once a day. I usually get up around 6AM, which gives me 1-2 hours before Jakey wakes up. (He is now sleeping through the night, so YAYAY!)

I watched Sarah Turner’s Youtube Video on how she structured her day for productivity and started following her lead with meditation.

  1. I get up
  1. I make some coffee
  1. I meditate for ten minutes
  1. … and breast pump(still hating it). 

I use a few different meditation sessions based on my needs/intentions for the day:

Practicing meditation has really helped me function better. I may not be very good at it, but learning to meditate helps me be a productive business owner, mother, and person.

Time Limits | How I Set Work/Life Boundaries As A Mompreneur

This really came with time, and Jake’s ability to grow in independence, but sleep-training was a huge help.

(Eventually I’ll be posting a blog on how I sleep-trained, and I’ll try to remember to back-link it in this post)

Before I started setting limits, I would obviously work whenever I had a free moment. That included working until 1AM.

Now, there will be occasions where a late-nighter will be necessary, but I started to realize I was burning myself out. And that actually made me LESS productive.

Now, I set myself up for a 6-hour workday, starting at 6:30 am and ending at 2:00pm. I sprinkle breaks Jake breaks throughout, and try to be done no later than 3:00PM when my husband gets home.

Setting these time limits REALLY help me focus, and it shows me just how much I CAN get done in that time-frame. I also decided to work 4 days a week, and take 3 days to spend with Jake unapologetically.

This was really hard in the beginning. I was struggling with a lot of guilty thoughts: 

Wow, guess you really don’t want to be successful at your business if you can’t handle late nights

Wow, what a privileged little bitch to be able to just ‘decide’ she only wants to work 4 days a week

And ya know what, I realized how fucking stupid those thoughts were. I realized that I was so worried about OTHER PEOPLE judging me that it was driving me crazy. For fuck’s sake… what better reason do we start our own businesses if not for the flexibility- if not because I wanted to make more money and work less?

And when I started embracing this mentality, I remembered my reasons for making the career leap. I wanted to make more money and be with Jake. Fuck… I just wanted to be a happier person than I had been for a long time. Longer than I genuinely care to admit in hindsight.

I have busted my ass harder than I ever had- EVER- to make this work. I’ve spent more time sans comfort-zone in the past 6 months than I have in my ENTIRE LIFE.

If there are people in my life who don’t recognize that, it isn’t my problem. I have no control over their thoughts. I only can control the narrative I tell about myself.

And so, I’m learning not to give a single fuck about silly stuff like that.

So, please don’t let that voice in your head punish you for needing a break.

Or- God-fucking-forbid, enjoying more of your life…

Especially if you’re in a creative field. That mental break is crucial for you to be able to do your job well.

Burning the midnight oil 7-days a week WILL happen sometimes… but just remember to make it a ‘sometimes’.

Mentality | How Shifting My Professional Mentality Made Me A Better Business Owner

The biggest challenge you’ll face in starting a business is your mindset.

Most of us, before starting our businesses, came from another company. We had a boss. We were an employee who was accountable to someone else.

You MUST get out of the “employee” mindset to succeed. You have to stop thinking, “oh man, I have to find people that want to work with me/buy my products”.

You must start thinking: “I must find people I WANT to work with/buy my products

Your mission is to grow your business. That’s it. That’s why you’re doing what you’re doing. You CANNOT maintain a servitude/fearful attitude.

It will kill ya.

If you find a client that gives you red flags, then walk away. There are always more.

If you find a client who tries to haggle your prices, show them the door. There are plenty of people willing to pay what you’re worth.

If a client doesn’t value your time, or treats you like their employee, YOU fire THEM.

You’re nobody’s bitch anymore, my love. You’re a skilled professional here to bring your expertise. Act like it. Show YOURSELF respect.

Don’t let anyone convince you that you need to eat shit to be successful. It took me a long time to learn that. 

And don’t work for free. There are ways to provide services without a $$ amount exchanged that benefit you, but you CAN always find “experience” that will pay $$.

I was a doormat for most of my life. I bowed down in the face of conflict whenever I smelled it on the wind. I’d do WHATEVER I had to do to please someone else. Because ‘pleasing someone‘ = self-validation. I had tied my self-worth tightly to other people’s perception of my value.

It was wholly selfish and wholly toxic. And it never worked how I wanted it to.

I know… a ground-breaking realization, isn’t it? *eye-roll*

I spent many years working with people who, no matter what I did, were never satisfied. It almost destroyed me. Perhaps it did destroy me, because I really felt myself on the edge of: “this is just how life is. I am not good enough to achieve my goals.”

Now that I run KBK(Kopy By Kenz), I don’t put up with that. I’ve learned that I don’t have to work with anyone I don’t want to… because there are plenty of people who will value and appreciate what I do.

Those people exist for you too.

If you take nothing else from my post, mama, take that.

Don’t just drink coffee out of your “#GirlBoss” cup. Fucking embody it. People won’t respect you if you don’t respect yourself.

You need to work on believing in your own worth if you want clients/customers to believe in you too.

Routines | Why Sleep-Training Had A Massive Impact On My Productivity

It goes without saying that we need to sleep. 

And when ya got a behbeh, sleep is hard to come by in the beginning.

It will genuinely impress you when you realize how well you function with as little rest as you’ll get during those early months.

If you’re a mom running their own business, then you’re juggling far more than people might realize- more than you realize. You’re now a stay-at-home-mom and a full-time-career-woman.

To make it easier on yourself. Sleep-train your kid.

Like, seriously.

There are many options out there, and you’ll find one that works for your family. Sleep training doesn’t only benefit YOU, it also helps the babe. Giving them the tools to sleep on their own helps them grow and be happier babies.

And when you sleep-train, you open the door to routine.

You know.. routine. A (mostly) predictable timeline to keep you from feeling like the world is on fast-forward, and you can’t find the remote to pause it.

Sleep-training my son has made other aspects of my business easier to manage. I can only get up at 6AM and do what I do because I’ve had a good night’s sleep. I only have the confidence that I can get shit done because I’ve trained Jake to sleep in until a specified time.

Sleep-training improves their naps, as well. Which means I have a few hours throughout my morning/afternoon to work on projects.

And because he’s getting enough sleep, he’s in a much better mood while he IS awake.

This all compounds onto itself and will make both of your lives more manageable.

Rewards | How Ice Cream Makes Me A Better Woman

Yup. It’s true. Every night before bed, I make myself an “ice cream shake” in my Ninja blender.

After Jake is asleep.

After my work for the day is done…

After I pumped for the last time that day…

I sit my ass down on the couch and eat ice cream—every night.

Why? 

Well, I’m like a dog, I guess. I’m food-driven, lol. I love food. I love routine. I love sitting with myself and enjoying a delicious treat as a reward for all of my hard work.

(here’s my shitty recipe I made up if you’re curious… though I’ve been told it’s addicting… so be warned)

My nightly ice cream helps me decompress from the day. It’s almost like a trigger. I know ice cream time = relaxation time.

It’s my ritual. 

It’s my personal “treat yo’ self” moment. It helps me wind down and relax. All that sugar and chocolate gets my endorphins goin’, and it just helps me end my day on a high note.

Yes, there are healthier alternatives. But this is my selfish thing. This is what I do purely for satisfaction. And I’m not sorry lol.

So no matter what you find joy in, maybe set aside some time at the end of each day to enjoy it. Whether that be a snack, or a bath, or yoga, or video games.

Whatever lets you be wholly irresponsible and unfettered. It’s for the sake of BALANCE, my guy.

That’s All Folks

Thanks for reading the blog, gang. I hope it gave you some tips to try out. Everyone is different, but I think all of the stuff I’ve mentioned is worth a try. Some of it is uncomfortable. Emotional work that you might be reluctant to do, but it’s worth it.

It’s so worth it.

Let me know what you guys do to help you “slay” your day. I’m always looking out for ways to be the best mompreneur I can be!

If you haven’t heard it yet today: I’m so fucking proud of you. You are doing SUCH a good fucking job juggling all of this.

XOXOXOXO

Kenz’s Ice Cream Shake Recipe

  • 4 Pieces Of An XL Hershey Chocolate Bar
  • 1-1 ½ Cups of Your Favorite Ice Cream Flavor(I STRONGLY recommend Hagan Daaz)
  • About 4 TBSP CRUSHED Ice
  • JU-U-UST enough milk to help the ingredients blend (usually about ¼- ½ cup)

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  1. Layer Ice Cream
  1. Then Chocolate Bar
  1. Then Crushed Ice
  1. Then Your Milk 
  1. (in that order) into your blender.
  1. Blend that sucker.
  1. Leave In Freezer for AT LEAST 20 mins, but no more than 45 mins

DO NOT OVERBLEND. This is VERY IMPORTANT.

You want to make sure the ice has broken down and there are no chunks left. It will look a lot like chunky wet sand.

That’s what you want.

When you don’t over blend, you get to enjoy a really refreshing texture, and at the bottom of your shake you’ll find some larger bits of chocolate bar and it’s HEAVEN.

This will take some time to “get right”, so don’t be afraid to experiment with different measurements of any of the ingredients.

TBH, I don’t measure, I just kind of eye-ball everything.

How I Came Up With The Recipe (for those 2 people that might give a shit)

I made this recipe up almost ten years ago. I was trying to recreate a Starbucks Frappuccino. I know… how “Live, Laugh, Love” of me.

But in my defense, I was 18, and this was before all of the Pinterest and Youtube videos showing you how to recreate recipes.

I love my ice cream shake 10 TRILLION times more than anything at Starbucks.

I hope it is something that will bring you joy too… just be careful… It’s addictive AF. 😉

TTYL