What A New Mom REALLY Wants For Valentines Day

Alright, this post is actually for the life partners of new mommies. That’s right, so fellow noob moms, go ahead forward this post to your partner and skedaddle out of the room.

I dunno… go watch Netflix or something…

Alright… is she gone?

Are you sure?

Alright, good.

Now that your new mom is out of the way- let’s get down to business, my dear support person.

Firstly: how are you? Are you doing alright? 

I know that sometimes you get lost in the fray when the baby comes, so I just wanted to take a second and let YOU know that you’re ALSO doing a great job, and your new mom appreciates everything you do. 

With Valentines Day approaching, I know it might be hard to find a spare moment to yourselves to celebrate, so I wanted to create this helpful little post as a means of sharing with you precisely what your new mom really wants for Valentine’s Day.

Sure, by all means, grab her some flowers, chocolates, anything she might like- but if you really want to put a huge smile on her face, then stay tuned, because this post is going to tell you precisely how to do it. 

So let’s talk about…

What A New Mom REALLY Wants For Valentine’s Day.

Sleep

I’m going to make this easy. I’m putting THE top gift as our first entry- emphatic order be damned. If you want to give your precious new mom the best Valentine’s Day ever, then give her a full night’s sleep– hell, if you’re feeling spicy, give her a few!

There’s nothing she wants- or needs– more right now than a solid night’s sleep. So, if you can help her out as much as possible, then do so. 

It might be tough if your new mom is choosing to breastfeed exclusively, but even if you sit with her during the feedings, or see if she’s willing to do a bit of extra pumping throughout the day if she can that could cover the night feedings!

But even if you just sit up with her during those lonely hours of the wee morning, rub her back, tell her how great of a job she’s doing- those are the types of gestures that will be the greatest gift.

An Empty Sink

Nothing gets neglected like housework when a new baby comes. Even though a baby takes up a ton of her attention, it doesn’t mean that the sink full of dishes, or the unmade bed, aren’t driving your new mom absolutely crazy.

If you want a sure-fire way to make her Valentine’s Day rock, see if you can find the time to tidy up! Maybe even convince her to take a nap once the baby goes down(again, sleep is king), and you can have a lovely clean house ready for her when she wakes up.

Clean Hands

You both probably have never handled so much shit in your lives… literally

It’s no joke how often such a tiny body can produce so many dirty diapers. Do your special new mom a solid, take on diaper duty for the day. Taking on diapers for the day is ESPECIALLY helpful if your new mom is exclusively breastfeeding, as all of the baby’s feedings are most likely on her to perform.

To her, just knowing she has those few extra minutes of free time afforded to her can make a HUGE difference. 

Not to mention, diaper changes can be a pretty fun way to get that extra bonding time in with your little one!

To FINALLY Finish That One Episode of That ONE Show On Netflix

Sometimes the best gift can just be getting through one episode of her favorite show without having to pause it to tend to a crying baby, so give mamma a break, leave her with a gift basket of her favorite snacks to binge-watch her favorite show, and hang with the little one for a few hours.

At-Home Spa Day

Even though mommy might normally enjoy visiting the spa, early motherhood means she might lack the energy, and maybe even a bit of the desire to be away from the baby so long.

So, why not bring a spa day to her?

Buy her a little basket of bath soaps, bath bombs, lotions- you get the idea…  Light some candles and throw a few rose petals around that freshly cleaned bathroom, and let the love of your life enjoy a little homemade R&R while you and baby are right down the hall where she can get her fill of baby cuddles whenever she wants.

Hell, if you want to go all-out, have a massage therapist make a house call, and you can either give her a private massage in the living room; or have a friend or family member pay a visit so they can care for the baby while you both enjoy a couple’s massage.

Hell… there comes the point when, if mommy could just sneak in a hot shower, it could feel like a spa day in itself.

Hopefully, it’s easy to see that the undercurrent of all of these gift ideas is quite simple… 

Your new mom needs a bit of relaxation. Sometimes she won’t even realize she needs the break, but that’s where you come in, ever-so-important support partner. You can be that safety net that catches her when she’s running on E. 

Your role is so important, and support and love is truly the greatest gift you can give a new mom. Even something as seemingly simple as: “you’re doing a great job” can mean the world to her.

But that doesn’t mean your new mom might not enjoy a trip to the spa.

It couldn’t hurt.

You know what…? Go ahead and get her the gift card to the spa to be safe…

Alright, friends, no matter how you choose to celebrate, may you have a pretty stellar Valentine’s Day!

Yeah, I know it’s a corporate construct developed to sell needless merchandise and overly expensive cards… but hey, think of it as an excellent excuse for some tasty takeout, if nothing else.

Take it easy!

8 Organizing Tips For New Moms

Hello There!

You’re friendly neighborhood noob mom here! I hope that your start of 2020 has been fantastic, and with a budding new year, we’re all rearing to improve some aspect of our lives for the better.

Some of us want to drop that last ten pounds, or clear out the clutter we’ve been compiling in our basement!

Well, if you’re a new mom in a new decade (like myself), doing any kind of spring cleaning feels overwhelming. When you bring home a new baby, you’re often desperate just to make sure you have all of the necessities in arms reach.

If you’re anything like me, my first week or two was baby supplies everywhere, dirty baby clothes in a pile, and far too many dishes in the sink.

Frankly, I’ve mentioned previously that clutter and a lack of organization can actually cause me more anxiety than not. I tend to be someone who finds peace and relaxation in cleaning- and especially in knowing there’s a place for everything. Clutter, almost literally, makes it impossible for me to relax.

This post is for those of you who, like me, need a bit of organization in your life, but could use a few quick tips to get you started.

Welp, I’m here to try and lend a hand, fellow noob mom, and so I would like to share with you my…

8 Organizing Tips For New Moms

We’ll talk about products and tactics that have helped me keep my house(and my mind) neat and tidy(almost- I am still a new mom with very little time lol).

Anyway, let’s get it started!

Set Up Multiple Stations

So, one of the most significant contributors to an organized lifestyle is convenience. It’s much easier to stay neat when you make it easy on yourself. When it comes to baby stuff, for example, you’re much less likely to put baby clothes in a hamper if it’s close by, instead of only upstairs in the baby’s room.

With that in mind, my first suggestion is to set up at least two “baby stations” in your home. Like, one upstairs, and one downstairs, for example.

Personally, I have all baby-related necessities in:

  1. Jake’s room
  2. My Room Under His Bassinet
  3. Family Room

In the Family Room, I simply purchased one set of 3-tier plastic drawers from Target, and I stored diapers and wipes in one drawer, extra outfits, and accessories in the second; and finally supplies like pacifiers, gas relief drops, diaper rash cream, etc… in the last.

Just the stuff I know I am most likely to be using often enough that running up to Jake’s room would be inconvenient to do 20 times a day.

By having these drawers, I’m able to use my supplies and put them right back in the drawer without having to put in too much extra effort.

I also have a hamper for dirty clothes, and a diaper genie in my family room and my bedroom, too.

Define A Specific Area In Your Kitchen For All Baby-Related Feeding Products

I mentioned the wire countertop storage drawers I ordered in my “C-Section” blog, and they were PERFECT for storing all of Jake’s eating accessories.

However, I also made sure that the area I set these drawers up had enough room to make sure I had a bit of extra room for any additional products that wouldn’t fit in the drawers like distilled water and formula.

I also emptied out a specific drawer close by that I store my extra breastfeeding accessories.

Having all of my baby’s feeding accessories in one place makes the, incredibly convenient and easy to reach, while also stored in a spot that doesn’t make my eye twitch from an over-cluttered countertop.

Make A Breastfeeding Basket

I actually need to take my own advice on this one a bit better than I have been. Regardless of whether you’re pumping, breastfeeding, or both, it’s an excellent idea to set yourself up with a little breastfeeding basket that you can keep all of the things you need to have in easy reach.

For example:

  • Water Bottle
  • Easy-To-Eat Snacks
  • Tissues
  • Burp Rags
  • Daily Vitamins(to help you remember to take them)
  • Phone Charger
  • More snacks(I get super hungry from pumping)

Basically, yet again, just anything that you would like to have on-hand when you’re hands are full with a baby, or you’re tied down to a breast pump.

You can get yourself a nice bag or basket that you can store closeby without having to have all of your supplies lying around.

You can also make sure that you “restock and replenish” your basket right before bed each night; that way, you don’t have to worry about trying to get all of your supplies together with a hungry, angry little baby wiggling around in your arms.

Take That Extra Step

I know pretty much all of my previous organizing tips were entirely about helping you avoid any extra effort, but this one is a bit different.

Think of this tip as a “why do tomorrow what you can do today”. If you finish a bowl of cereal, do your best to get up and bring it to the sink- because, eventually, your coffee table could be a smorgasbord of all of your snacks and meals.

If you’re getting dressed, take the extra minute just to tidy up your bed. It doesn’t have to be perfect. In fact, I once heard the phrase: “done is better than perfect,” and it really resonated with me. I find myself repeating it in those moments when I’m tempted to neglect a small task that is inconvenient but not impossible.

Hence: even if you don’t have the time or energy to wash the cereal bowl right then and there… at least it’s in the sink and not on the coffee table.

Keep 2 Diaper Bags

Excessive, maybe… but there’s nothing more ass-clenching than being a new mom and realizing you’ve forgotten the diaper bag as your baby has shit all over themselves in the middle of the mall.

A really great way to always be prepared is to create two diaper bags, and keeping one in your car, and one in your support person’s car.

I even have a diaper bag for long trips and one for quick trips!

Keep A Journal

Now, I’ve never personally been a big journaler; and that’s mostly because I choose to paint or draw instead. Even so, I think journaling is an incredible way to relieve stress and help you work through any sticky shit in your soul!

But, if journaling isn’t your thing, then my advice on this tip is just to find something to help you declutter your brain.

It may seem impossible to find a moment to yourself, and when you DO finally get the baby down for a nap, you’re compelled to either scramble around trying to tidy up or get that well-deserved nap.

By all means, take that nap… HOWEVER, I truly recommend you make more of an effort to set aside some of the baby’s naptime for your emotional organization over home organization. 

Even if it’s just fifteen minutes of journaling, or painting, or meditation – HELL, even if you just feel like sitting down and watching youtube… just make an effort to do something that helps you decompress.

HELL, find a NEW hobby like journaling or painting! Being a new mom means a lifetime of new things- why not take a chance to take on something just for mom?

If you’re interested in learning more about the benefits of Journaling, and how to get started, then I emphatically recommend you visit my friend over at Paper Thoughts

They are an incredible resource for anyone who would love to express themselves in a creative and therapeutic capacity.

But their work is especially beneficial and geared toward educating children about healthy coping skills!

paperthoughtsprogram.com is full of resources and prompts to get you inspired to write!

Create A Cleaning Routine With Your Partner

Considering the fact that you’re reading this blog, it is very likely that you like things in order. There are very few ways of maintaining an orderly day that is more reliable than creating a routine.

When you create an easy-to-follow cleaning routine, your household can be ahead of any messes each day. After all, it’s better to tidy as you go, than to be faced with a day’s worth of dishes(back to the cereal bowl idea).

If you want an easy sheet to introduce to your family organizing routine, check out my… 

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Easy Organization Schedule Sheet

With this easy to use printable, you and your partner can set up a concise and successful cleaning routine that won’t make anyone feel frustrated or unappreciated.

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    With the new decade in full swing, a cleanse can sometimes be the best medicine. Not to mention, you itty bitty baby is going to grow far too quickly! 

    A great way to keep organized is to get rid of as much unnecessary clutter as possible. Take a few hours throughout the day(as you have them) to go through your closet during nap time, or when the baby is relaxing, and sort through your old clothes to figure what you really need to keep.

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    This not only lets your air out your environment but do some good by donating your quality items that others might need.

    It’s a win-win, guys!

    Goodness knows we need a lot of goodwill to be spread around in these turbulent times.

    I hope that this list of organizing tips have been helpful. If you have any cool organizing advice for your fellow moms, mention it in a comment below!

    L 2 Mom is all about supporting each other, so don’t be afraid to chime in if you think of a super cool tip to share!

    Anyway, have an awesome rest of your day, and if you have been enjoying the L 2 Mom blog, then please be sure to share it with your friends!

    Talk To Ya Soon!

    20 Baby Products That Helped Me Survive My First 2 Months As A Mom

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    Hey, Mammas!

    I hope you’re doing fabulously today! My beautiful son Jake turned two months old recently, and so I wanted to share my 20 favorite baby products that I cannot IMAGINE getting through those first two months without!

    No matter whether you’re looking for some baby registry inspiration; or gift shopping for another expectant mommy in your life, this list of products are all things that I use (practically) every day!

    FYI: I am not sponsored by any of these brands or products, they are just a selection of items that I either received as a gift or bought myself, and feel are worth sharing with you!with you!

    However, I am using affiliated links, so if you buy something through one of my links, I do get a commission, just FYI

    As well as a list of 20 awesome baby products, I’ve also got a new free gift for you, my fellow noob moms!

    This week’s freebie is Family Photo Bingo! Want some fun inspiration for photos you can add to your little one’s baby album? Then check out this checklist! As you snap the photos, check them off and celebrate as you “capture them all!” 

    All you gotta do is plug in your email info below, and it’s all yours!


      Not to mention, if you’re interested in some of the other exclusive mommy freebies, check out the “Free Stuff” page! There you can download all of the freebies from the L2Mom.com!

      Anyway, let’s get on with this list of my favorite 20 baby products that helped me survive my first 2 months as a mom!

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      1 Love To Dream Swaddle UP

      So, I was a big fan of swaddling before my son was even born, and I was determined to get HIM to love swaddling as my first step toward setting up good habits for sleep training.

      Personally, I knew early on that I wasn’t going to bother learning how to swaddle Jake in a traditional blanket. I decided this based on the anxiety of my own ineptitude that I would do it incorrectly and, therefore, put my son in danger. 

      However, I received several of the “easy swaddles” during my shower (the kind that lets you slip them into a “leg-pocket” and fold the pieces of fabric across their body- all of which affixed with velcro).

      These swaddles worked fine in the beginning, and while they did help Jake calm down, it wasn’t long before he was fighting me to get his arms down at his sides- as well as him becoming strong enough to break the swaddle just enough that I was worried he was going to strangle himself.

      While browsing Amazon, I came across the Love To Dream Swaddle, and after reading the rave reviews on the swaddle, I decided to give it a try and see if Jakey would like it.

      Check It Out Here!

      Needless to say, he DID. He was much less fussy when being swaddled because he could keep his little arms arm by his face, while still getting to enjoy the “swaddled” feeling that helps him sleep!

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      2 Medela PersonalFit Flex Breast Shields

      Yet another product I discussed in my Breastfeeding post, but these flexible flange attachments were fantastic when I was learning how to pump because they’re comfortable. They also have a great seal, which helps prevent leakage.

         Check It Out Here!

      If you have a Medela pump, I super and strongly suggest giving these a try. They’re so much more comfortable than the rigid plastic flanges that come with your pump.

      3 Jezero Long-Sleeve Nursing Tops

      Okay, this is more of a “mommy” product, but you can’t feed your baby without a proper nursing top, and I LOVE THESE. 

      Check It Out Here!

      The fabric is really high quality, they fit very nicely, and they make me feel nicely covered when I want to be. They come in lots of patterns and colors, I’ve already ordered two sets (so far), and I am most likely going to ordering more.

      4 UpSpring Baby C-Panty C-Section Recovery Panty

      I also mentioned this in my “My Tips For Recovering From A C-Section Without Losing Your Mind” post. Honestly, I think they are a fantastic investment regardless of HOW you deliver your baby. 

          Check It Out Here!

      They’re flattering and excellent for helping shrink your uterus back to it’s proper size. It also helps you feel more comfortable physically, so I definitely recommend them as part of your postpartum arsenal!

      5 Windi

      As with many of the mommy products that I’ve used, the Windi was recommended by another mommy a few weeks before Jake turned 2 months old. Windi is a gas bubble reliever for babies, that, while a bit gross in theory, works INCREDIBLY WELL.

      Check It Out Here!

      Jake has tended to be a pretty gassy baby, and it makes him fussy as hell, and he usually can’t stand being put down. I tried to figure out what could be causing his discomfort in my diet. 

      And though I have yet to identify any specific cause, the Windi has been such an excellent tool in helping relieve Jake’s gas and help him relax.

      It’s not the most glamorous procedure, but it’s super easy, super safe, and it works so well at relieving gas that I cannot recommend it enough!

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      6 Side-Sleeper Bassinet

      So, if you co-sleep, this probably won’t be a necessity for you. Still, it might even be worth your consideration for when you decide to transition baby out of your bed/room.

      My little bassinet was a hand-me-down from a wonderful friend, and it has been very helpful to have Jake right next to me, while still giving him the independence that works for our family! 

      I also intend to use it when it comes time to transition him into his own room because maybe it’ll help him be more comfortable with the change in sleeping arrangements.

      7 Zip-Up Pajamas

      I’ve said since Jake was born that, whenever anyone I know is having a kid from now on, at least one of my gifts will be just… dozens of zip-up Pajama onesies. Like, Screw regular onesies, and you can fight me about it.

      Zip up Onesies have been the easiest thing to put on my son. They make everything easier.

      Everything.

      Especially with Jake having been born in colder weather, I can’t really leave him without pants and socks… which are just a pain in the ass to keep on with a wiggly behbeh.

      With zip-up PJ onesies, your troubles are over!

      Just in case you aren’t sure what the fuck I’m talking about, here’s a link!

      8 White Noise Machine

      You want your kid to sleep better, and by extension, YOU sleep better? Then you need a noise machine. The best brand for your baby is up to you, but they’re super integral to helping your kid fall asleep and stay that way for as long as their little body needs!

       This is the noise machine I have, and I love it. I love how small it is. It has tons of different sound settings, as well as an adorable little star-light projection!

      9 Breast Milk Teas & Supplements

      I’m not going to go into detail about any specific breast milk production supplements, but you can read about the milk supply supplements that I used here in my “Breastfeeding Truths & Tips I Wish I had Known About” post.

      As a note: always make sure that you consult your doctor before taking any supplements, as there can be side-effects that you should be aware of.

      10 MustQ 2 Tier Organizer Baskets

      Okay, so I know that cleaning and organizing is the last thing you have time for in those first few months… but if you’re anything like me, clutter causes you anxiety, and sometimes it’s worth setting aside a bit of time in your day to put some stuff in order.

      Check Them Out Here!

      These simple little organizer baskets have been AMAZING. I bought two, and I can store all of his bottles and baby feeding-related accessories neatly on my counter.

      You do have to put them together, but they’re very easy, and they look nice, too.

      11 Diaper Genie

      No doubt you have heard of the Diaper Genie, but I’m still gonna mention it because it’s awesome. I actually received two because of a registry error, but it’s been awesome having one upstairs and one downstairs.

      Check It Out Here

      Yes, this is because I’m lazy… but I accept myself.

      But anyway, while your new baby’s poop is not going to really smell much during the first couple of months, but the moment you start introducing real foods, that’s gonna change REAL QUICK, and the last thing you’re going to want is your kitchen smelling like actual shit!

      Now, I know that there are other versions of this same type of product, but I’ve only used the Diaper Genie, so I can’t rightfully vouch for them personally!

      If you HAVE used one of the other diaper collector cans, feel free to give your thoughts in the comments below!

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      12 Medela Milk Collectors

      Now, I’m just referring to Medela because that is the brand of breast pump I use, but I have no doubt you can find sets of extra milk collectors(and lids) for your brand of the breast pump.

      Check Them Out Here

      Now, I think bags are great too, but I only use those for freezing because they save space. Also, the more milk collector cups you have, the less washing you gotta do.

      (again… very lazy)

      13 Freemie Original Cups (Medela Breast Pump Attachment)

      Now, pumping is a less than… glamorous part of your routine as a mom, but a necessary one if you’re feeding your baby breastmilk. 

      Honestly, I find it insanely annoying, and a bit depressing, to have to skulk off and hideaway as you hook yourself up like a cow to a machine and pump.

      I happened across the Freemie Cup attachment for my Medela pump while browsing social media, and if you can’t afford one of those new-fangled portable breast pumps like the “Willow,” the Freemie attachments are a great alternative. 

       Check Them Out Here

      They slip right into your bra, and while you might look a little funny, they’re definitely more discreet and make it very possible that you can hang with your friends without feeling exposed! Also, the cups hold a whopping EIGHT OUNCES each, so you can pump to E without needing to stress!

      Now, as far as I know, they do not have attachments for all breast pumps, but if you do happen to find that your pump is compatible, give them a try!

      14 Cold Humidifier

      Excellent not just for keeping baby from getting dried out and congested, but also a GREAT noisemaker!

      The brand I have is Vicks, and there’s not much more to say about it than that!

      Here’s the humidifier I have, and so far it’s been awesome!

      Vix Starry Night Cool Moisture Humidifier

      The only thing I don’t really like about it is the very bright blue light it emits when turned on.

      15 The Owlet Sock & Baby Monitor App

      As famous as the Diaper Genie, the Owlet Sock is probably a baby product that you have heard of. It was THE main thing, if nothing else, I wanted for my baby, and it’s been an excellent anxiety reliever!

      The sock goes on easily, and the camera’s 1080p resolution is so insane that I can actually SEE him breathing on it. It’s just awesome.

      Check It Out Here

      I would say the only thing I don’t like is that it can be a bit annoying if the sock gets knocked off center- or if the wifi goes down. Otherwise, I can’t say enough good things about it.

      Also, it is obviously sickeningly expensive, and we were only able to have one because my mom was kind enough to purchase one for us.

      While I haven’t used it, there is an alternative product called the Snuza that’s a bit more reasonably priced, that a friend of mine says she loves for her little one!

      Here’s The Link

      16 Ergobaby Aura Baby Wrap

      Babies need to be held. A lot. Mommies LOVE to hold their babies. A LOT. 

      Unfortunately, sometimes moms need to do things with her hands. Sadly, even though we can grow OTHER PEOPLE’S hands, we can’t grow a second set of our own.

      Therefore, mammas choose to wear their babies. Now, I’ve tried the traditional baby carrier, and I don’t know if it’s because I’m a very short little mom, or it’s just the nature of the traditional baby carrier, but I honestly really didn’t like it too much.

      I found it difficult to get on, and cumbersome- even a bit claustrophobic for me- and for Jake. I happened to get lucky in Target one afternoon and happened across one of the fabric baby wraps and decided to give it a try.

      Check It Out Here

      Dude, what a much more pleasant experience. Not to mention, you and your baby get to cuddle much more closely this way.

      It takes a couple of tries to get the hang of how to wrap and insert baby, but once you do, I genuinely don’t think there’s a comparison. I don’t feel at all like Jake isn’t safe and secure, and it’s a BILLION TIMES more comfortable and easy to do daily tasks in.

      Moral of the story: wear your baby.

      17 Cortina CX Travel System- By Chicco

      I can’t say good things about the Cortina CX by Chicco. It’s so lovely to be able to just click the car seat into the stroller without having to wrestle Jake in and out of it (which he HATES).

      Check It Out Here

      You may find a car seat and stroller that you like better, but I love this one. The only thing that is kind of weird is how the stroller folds up, but that’s about it.

      18 Boon Drying Rack

      Yep, the good ole’ weird grass-like drying rack that you’ve probably seen an expectant mom receive at every baby shower you have attended in the past 5 years.

      There’s a reason for that.

      As silly and as simple as this drying rack is, it’s awesome, and I use it all-day/every day. 

      Check It Out Here

      They have tons of different styles and sizes, so you can definitely find one that will fit in your kitchen. I even saw on Amazon that they come in more colors than just green, so you don’t have to worry about the intense and vibrant green color clashing with your kitchen decor!

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      19 Medela Contact Nipple Shield

      I talked about these in my “Breastfeeding Truths & Tips I Wish I had Known About” post. Even though I transitioned into an exclusive pumper, these little nipple shields were a HUGE help in getting Jake to nurse during the first couple of weeks! They’re super comfortable, straightforward to use, and make breastfeeding wa-a-a-y more comfortable!

      Check It Out Here

      They’re also pretty easy to clean and travel with, so I think they’re pretty great!

      20 Contigo Autospout Ashland Water Bottle

      This might seem somewhat out of place on this list, but breastfeeding/ pumping is so dehydrating and exhausting on your body. You also need a ton of water just to keep your supply up, and so having a good water bottle is essential.

       Check It Out Here

      I’m a big Contigo fan, and this water bottle is great not just because of its capacity options, but it’s straw and comfortable mouthpiece. It just makes drinking water easy, and it helps you keep track of your intake.

      I usually try to fill it up at least two to three times, and it’s just a really helpful water bottle.

      We’ve Come To the End

      Hopefully, this list of faves has given you a few new accessories to make your day a little easier. We all mom different, so if you have a favorite baby product that I haven’t mentioned, say something in the comments below!

      L2Mom is about moms coming together to share stories and tips, after all!

      I hope you have an incredible rest of your day, and I’ll see ya next week!

      P.S: if you have any request as far as printables you’d like me to create, post it in a comment! I’d love to know all about the content that you guys are interested in!

      Take it east, fellow moms!

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      My Tips For Recovering From a C-Section Without Losing Your Mind

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      We all have our perfect birth plans. We all envision how we’ll handle the sudden shock of labor pains, and then the pushing pains to bring our little ones into the world

      For me, personally, I had spent nights lying awake, trying to brace and prepare myself for pain that everyone told me was indescribable. As well as the glamorous experience of having my legs spread wide, with a doctor and multiple nurses staring into my gaping cooch. All the while encouraging me to heave-ho until a human head fired out like a squealing rocket.

      What I had not anticipated, having been so distracted with the tastefully articulated imaginings as mentioned above, was that I could have a C-section

      In this post, I’ll share my personal C-Section experience, and my tips for recovering from a C-section without losing your mind.

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      My C-Section Story

      To be frank, I had a pretty easy pregnancy. Don’t get me wrong, I definitely felt pregnant, and by the infamous last month I was more than ready to evict my son from ‘the neighborhood.’ Even so, I was quite lucky overall as far as avoiding most of the expected pregnancy symptoms or health issues.

      Both Jake and I had perfect doctor’s appointments up until the very end. But it was during a prenatal appointment (two-days after my due date) when my doctor surprised my husband and I by telling us that I would be induced that afternoon; saying it was due to ‘excess fluid’ in my womb

      Even then, I was still expected to deliver vaginally, and it was only after 31 hours of labor that my delivery doctor told me that if I did not dilate past eight-centimeters within the hour, I would be prepped for C-Section.

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      I’ll talk about my “labor story” in detail sometime soon, but for the sake of time, an hour passed without said dilation, and so I was prepped for the surgery.

      By the time this decision was made, I was (obviously) exhausted; and almost too tired to be scared (almost).

      My husband, who had been an incredible support system throughout the long and laborious labor, snapped a selfie of the two of us right before I was wheeled in for surgery.

      At the moment, I was too tired to realize what might have been going through his head, as the one thing he had been afraid of most was a C-section and the potential complications.

      In hindsight, I’m pretty sure he took that picture as a “just-in-case”, and it makes me tear up even thinking about how scared he must have been, and how brave and positive he behaved at the time.

      I was wheeled, half-consciously, into the surgery theatre and dosed with an incredibly strong epidural. After that (with my husband at my side and able to see every gory detail) I stared dazedly up at the ceiling while my body was yanked and jerked around until the sound of a tiny and breath-taking squeal filled the air…

      and my heart.

      Anyway, before I get emotional thinking about it again, time for the gore!

      My son and I came out perfectly healthy (thankfully), and I think the most surprising aspect of a C-Section is just how quick the surgery was. 

      Not to mention how cavalier it was for the doctors to perform (just another Saturday night, y’all!).

      All said and done, I was cut open, zipped back up, and wheeled back in my hospital room in less than 30 minutes. Ironic for how long we mamma’s are stuck healing and recovering from a C-Section.

      It seems, at least for me, that while I knew C-Sections were one of the methods of child birth… it really didn’t occur to me just how major of a surgery it is.

      This is mega abdominal surgery, gang, and in spite of the overwhelming pressure we put upon ourselves to immediately start taking care of our baby and become super mom… the fact of the matter is, we just can’t go all in.

      This fucked with me emotionally. It was like, “for fuck’s sake… I went through all of the physical discomfort and limited mobility for nine months. I have to CARE FOR MY CHILD. How the hell am I expected to “relax”, “recover”, “rest”- are you kidding me?

      Well, we were very fortunate that, due to my husband’s career, he was able to take paternity leave for two-months. In contrast, my friend’s husband (she also had a C-section) had to go back to work three days after she gave birth.

      (I’m not even going to get into the disgust I feel in regards to our policies on maternity and paternity leave…)

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      Having my husband around for those first crucial weeks was such a blessing, and I am so grateful for the time we shared as a family and his incredible support.

      However, there were challenges that I had to adjust to and deal with that he couldn’t help me with. And that’s the shit that will be inside your head. It’s your maternal instincts– it’s you’re insecurities and impatience all exacerbated by the pain of your surgery and the stress of adjusting to becoming a new parent. 

      So, let’s chat about my tips on how I recovered from a c-section without losing my mind.

      C-Section Recovery Tips

      REST

      I know this is so counter-intuitive to everything going on in your life right now… but it is integral that you treat your body with patience and empathy. You just had major abdominal surgery, dude.

      As much as you’ll want to bounce around and mom the fuck out of your day, you need to practice self-restraint and allow your support person to pick up as much of the slack as possible.

      Let them handle the chores, and help transport the baby to and from you. Take naps when you can because sleep is your best medicine. You might feel better than you’d expect, but that’s all the more reason to be careful.

      Wear Recovery Panties

      Yes, you pumped out a baby, a placenta, and tons of blood and fluids will be evicted from your body over the next several weeks, but you’re still going to look more pregnant than you’ll expect or want.

      For me, I still looked 5 months pregnant the day after giving birth, and I refused to look in a mirror throughout the first couple of days.

      I did some research and discovered C-section recovery underwear, and I cannot recommend it enough. Not only do recovery panties help you feel more confident, but they’re also a great help in shrinking your uterus! Honestly, even if you deliver vaginally, I recommend these!

      They also make you feel much more comfortable in those first few weeks because your postpartum body might feel weak and foreign after nine-months of pregnancy.

      This is the brand that I bought, and they helped my body get (mostly) back to normal pretty quickly.

      Go Get A Pedicure

      I know that this seems luxurious and even a little selfish to even think of going and pampering yourself right now, but you did just bring a beautiful little life into the world.

      Personally, I think the thing that bothered me most about postpartum was how ‘odd’ and unlike myself that I felt. The sudden and abrupt shift in our lives was both beautiful and a little scary in the first few days.

      I went for my pedicure a few days after my two-week checkup when the doc told me I could drive again. 

      I chose to get a pedicure not because I thought I “deserved it” or I “wanted a break” (far from it). I did it for two reasons:

      1. It was something “normal“. It was something I did “before I was a mom,” and I found that the more “normal” things I incorporated back into my day-to-day did wonders for my recovery physically and emotionally.
      1. It gave my husband a chance to build his confidence that he could care for our boy without me being there. 

      Don’t Ignore Your Doctor’s Exercise Restrictions

      Aside from the unbelievable love and awe over your perfect little baby, you’re going to feel nothing more than the urge to get yourself back to your pre-preggo weight. 

      Believe me, I know

      However… AGAIN… you’ve just had major abdominal surgery, there won’t be any core exercises in your future for several months, at least.

      As good as you will feel, as quickly as you’ll feel it, you will be tempted to go hard on the fitness, but you have to be delicate with yourself. As drawn-out as your recovery might feel now, goodness-forbid you over-exert yourself and screw up your insides… who knows how long you’re recovery time would be if THAT happened?

      Just focus on eating a healthy diet, resting, and doing some light walking until your doctor gives you the go-ahead for more!

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      Keep Taking Your Prenatal Vitamins

      Your doctor will tell you this. Listen. Your body is going to be dealing with insane hormonal changes, and the stresses of motherhood(especially if you’re breastfeeding). Keep taking your vitamins to keep you going and make sure you recover properly.

      Be Prepared To Bleed

      You might have heard from your mom friends that vaginal delivery will mean a lot of time spent wearing panty-liners and maxi pads. This is also true for C-Section. Be prepared and stay stocked up on hygiene products.

      Be Kind To Yourself

      I’m not just talking about in the “pamper yourself’ way. My biggest piece of advice I can share with you… is to be gentle and patient with yourself. 

      • Respect your body, and it’s right to heal.
      • Respect your heart, and don’t feel guilty because you think you’re not doing enough.
      • Take long hot showers (no bubble baths though!) when you need to, and let daddy enjoy that special bonding time with the baby when you need a nap.

      Download The Busy Mommy Activity Inspiration Sheet

      As always, it’s super important to me not just to share my stories with you fellow, or soon-to-be noob moms, but also to create unique resources to help you relax and practice self-care

      This time I have something special for the bullet journal mammas! 

      Download the Busy Mommy Self Care Activity Inspiration Sheet below, where I share some easy, at-home activities to do when the baby is napping, or when daddy and baby are spending some quality one-on-one time together!

        There’s even space for you to jot down your own favorite self-care practices!

        As always, it’s totally and completely free, because I love you!

        You’re So Strong. Don’t Forget It!

        Don’t stress, mamma, and take as many moments out of your day that you can to remind yourself how INCREDIBLE you are!

        Your body is amazing and has brought your most precious gift into the world! It deserves a lot of TLC for that!

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        – and you- YOU, my friend, are amazing (or will be) for loving, tending, and raising a little baby into a beautiful little person!

        Trying to L 2 Mom while recovering from a C-Section is a lot to deal with, and it’s okay to feel overwhelmed and frustrated sometimes, it’d be a little weird if you didn’t.

        Be proud of yourself for the incredible strides you are taking, and if you need a bit more of a confidence boost to help remind you…

        You can download my Incredible Mommy Affirmations Sheet here that will give you the pep talk you need each day!

        Take it easy, mammas… well, as easy as a mamma can take it, that is.

        All my love,

        Kenz

        Breastfeeding Truths & Tips I Wish I Had Known About

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        Motherhood is hard.

        Everyone tells you this when you’re pregnant.

        Everyone also tells you that motherhood will be the most incredible thing you will ever do, and you will feel love and joy that you cannot describe. A love that you just… didn’t know was physically possible to experience.

        Everyone is unequivocally right.

        Man… you THINK that you love that little, wiggly potato-thing beyond belief while they’re still INSIDE your belly?

        HA! 

        Nothing can prepare you for the literal assault of love that fills your entire being the moment you hear their amazing first scream as they enter this world.

        In honor of this LONG ASS post, I wanted to give you guys a special gift from me to you. Think of it as an early Mother’s Day gift… or bribery– whichever one boats your float!

        I created a very special Printable for you!

        The Incredible Mommy Affirmations You Should Read Everyday!


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          This little printable is my gift for you, and I want you to read them EVERY DARN DAY! I don’t care if you need to stick to the fridge, your bathroom mirror- hell, stick it on your partner!

          Just make sure you read and recite these affirmations as often as you need. Because you ARE INCREDIBLE!

          Now, back to the boob talk…

          Everyone is also right in that it doesn’t matter how many hours you spend in labor trying to bring them into this world (32-hours and a c-section, hello), that pain means nothing in comparison to the joy you feel.

          You’d do it over again- 100 more times without a second thought– for that little person.

          (Please Note: That doesn’t mean the labor that you went through wasn’t something incredibly difficult and probably not nearly as romantic as you envisioned- but we will be discussing that in a different post.)

          The interesting and terrifying thing about motherhood (aside from all of the other interesting and terrifying things), are the struggles that people don’t seem to want to tell you about.

          Whether that be because they may not have experienced it, or because they don’t want to scare an already hormonal and anxious pregnant lady, some of the stuff I have experienced in this first 6 weeks of motherhood definitely caught me off guard.

          While well-intended, personally, I WISHED that some of the mommies I had talked to, or read about, had disclosed some of the tough stuff to me – my hormonal self be damned!

          I’ll be writing posts about my personal experiences as a mother, in that regard, not to scare you, but to help prepare you for some of the unbeautiful stuff so that you don’t feel alone or embarrassed(kind of like I did for those first 5 first days of motherhood, specifically).

          I’ve been a full-fledged mamma for a little over 6 weeks at the time of writing this post, so while I don’t have a lot of experience- all of the tough stuff about being a first-time mom is not only fresh in my mind- but concurrent!

          I wanted to talk about these feelings before they become foggy, so that way I can truly empathize with other soon-to-be new moms like me.

          In this first post, I want to talk about what has been THE toughest aspect of motherhood thus far. The thing that I truly had not anticipated being as challenging as it has been.

          Breastfeeding.

          While I definitely heard that breastfeeding can be challenging and that some moms end up not being able to do it at all… I had no idea, not just in regards to the physical toll, but the emotional toll struggling to breastfeed truly is.

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          I want to talk about this not just to help prepare you for the trouble… but also to reinforce that it will be okay. I want to share some of the helpful tools friends recommended, as well as stuff I found on my own, that made my breast milk issues much easier.

          Now, the views expressed in this post are my opinion, and may not align with the views of all moms, but I still want to share them for the moms that might benefit from hearing my personal experiences.

          So, without further adieu…

          …let’s chat about boobs.

          What A Plot (t)w(i)s(ts): Latching Problems While Breastfeeding

          TMI: I have always had massive boobs. I started developing when I was eight years old, and I genuinely believed that breastfeeding would most likely not be a problem for me. I would always say: “I’ve had to carry these things around for 20 years! They better work!

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          This was only reinforced when my newborn son latched practically IMMEDIATELY after birth, and I felt a ton of relief as the nurse called him “a pro!”.

          I thought that meant that everything was right on track, while I may not sleep for the next year, at least my boobs would do their job and my kid would eat. Feeding my baby would NOT be one of the struggles I’d have to deal with.

          LOL.

          So, a bit of background that shaped my personal experience and situation: I did not actually go into labor before arriving at the hospital.

          I went for a check-up 2 days after my due date, and my husband and I were quite surprised when the doctor told us that I would be induced THAT AFTERNOON.  He decided to induce me because he found “excess fluid” in my womb, which might have meant the baby was not eating enough (I laugh now at the idea that this kid might have had a small appetite). While very nervous, we were excited. I was as big as a house at this point and quite ready to give birth.

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          So, after a lovely 32-hours of labor that ended in a C-section because I couldn’t dilate past 8 centimeters, my body was in… a LOT of shock- and my hormones were all kinds of confused.

          As you may already know (or will know) when you’re baby is first born, you don’t actually produce milk right away. You produce colostrum, which is an insanely nutrient dense pre-milk that your baby eats until your boobs start flowing with milk.

          Now, normally a new mom’s milk comes in within a couple of days or so. However, because I had been induced AND had a C-section, I was warned that milk production might take a little longer than others – 7 to 10 fucking days, in fact. This caused me to stress, but all of the wonderful hospital staff assured me that my baby would be fine, and he would get what he needed until my milk came in.

          The second night after he was born was VERY tough. My poor little guy just couldn’t rest for more than 20 mins, and so neither did I. (FYI, my wonderful husband was there, but since I was breastfeeding, not much he could do but be supportive, and he very much was).

          I had nurses coming in all night, trying to help me soothe him to sleep, thinking maybe he had a gas bubble (which he very well might have had), but he just couldn’t go down. The only rest I got was around 5AM when they needed to take him for a bath, and do a few tests, so the nurse kept him until about 7AM.

          Guilt trip number one initiated.

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          When we got home it was even harder, because my son, in spite of his perfect latch at the hospital, began to struggle. He would get so enraged in those first couples of days that I couldn’t calm him down enough to eat. And once I did, he’d nurse for as long as necessary, and still become furious and angry within the hour, so the process repeated.

          This was… insanely emotionally taxing on top of trying to recover from a C-section, and the hormones freaking out in my body as they tried to return to normal. I was a (mostly) silent wreck. Trying to be strong so my husband didn’t worry, but I knew that he could see that I was so exhausted from labor, delivery, and anxiety.

          I cried tears of joy and relief that first night when I was able to put him down without him screaming immediately.

          He woke up often that night, but that’s normal for babies, so I just assumed he was doing his thing and this was part of being a mother (which it was to an extent).

          The next day was another battle, and he was so upset that getting him to latch was impossible. And even when he did, he’d get angry pretty quickly because of how difficult it was for him to get “milk” out.

          In desperation and curiosity, I had my husband bring me one of the tiny ready-made formulas that the hospital sent us home with. The moment I put it in his mouth, the poor little thing CHUGGED the bottle like it was his job (technically it was), and immediately passed out for hours.

          My poor boy, who hadn’t slept more than an hour or two in the past two days, finally collapsed and I realized all of his fussiness was pure hunger.

          I broke down in tears, my husband trying to reassure me that it wasn’t my fault and I was doing a great job…

          But the idea that not only had my body not been strong enough to give birth to my baby on its own- but now I couldn’t even feed him. It broke me. He was great at latching, my body just wasn’t meeting him halfway…

          Interlude…

          Now, in hindsight and with hormones back in check, I realized that the above-described feelings of self-loathing are wholly invalid, and you should not feel that way if you go through a similar situation.

          I now understand just how hard I worked to bring my son here; and while I may not have “pushed” him out, I gave every last drop of myself to him, and we both made it out healthy. While my body may have struggled to adjust and build my milk supply that first week, I busted my breasts to here and back to make sure that I make him enough food each day.

          I described those feelings because I want to be very transparent in my personal situation. I don’t want to sugar-coat these emotions for those of you who might read this and worry that the negativity and frailty that you might be dealing with is something wrong with you, and no one else understands- or worse, would be critical or judgmental of you.

          You’re not alone, and you have nothing to worry about. I have come to realize how truly you can love fellow mommies, even if you may not parent the same way. That bond and those experiences are something you all share, to one degree or another, and you will always be there for your fellow mom.

          I’m here for you right now, sister.

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          Interlude over…

          So, after calming down a bit, grateful that I had at least found a way of making sure my little guy was satisfied and able to rest, I sent my husband to the store to fetch formula and distilled water to help me supplement while I waited for my milk to come in.

          Breast Pump Problems

          So, I heard that pumping (along with your baby nursing) was the best way to inspire your boobs to start oozin’, and so I started putting my breast pump into overdrive. Spending over an hour, at some points, desperate to squeeze out every last drop of precious food for my son.

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          This was all a pain in the ass initially, not just because I was struggling to learn how to use a breast pump, but also because what precious little supply I was producing was leaking down my boob and being wasted!

          My God, I was gonna lose it.

          Turns out, I have smaller than the av-ur-rage nipples(TMI, sorry). This self-discovery was really surprising to me, as I had assumed I would have been on the other end of the spectrum.

          So off to Amazon I went (Amazon was my best friend in those first weeks), and found a smaller cup size compatible with the brand of breast pump I used (I’ll talk more about that later).

          Even though I was still struggling to master the collaboration of my boobs and the breast pump, switching to the correct size cup helped immediately. Now, the only time I leak is usually due to user error.

          During the first several days, I was still pumping colostrum, still struggling to get Jake to latch, and still feeling pretty guilty for supplementing with formula.

          But after a week that felt like an eternity, I finally started to produce what looked like milk; and slowly but surely, I made more and more and was finally able to make enough food to keep up with my baby’s needs!

          Products That Helped Increase My Breastmilk Supply

          Now that you know a bit about my personal breastfeeding journey and that it will get easier! I’ll tell you about my favorite products that saved my sanity, and helped improve my milk supply greatly- as well as quickly.

          Just to make sure I mention it: none of the products below that I’m going to showcase are sponsored. 

          I paid for everything out of my own pocket (along with all the stuff I bought that DIDN’T workyay!) and I just wanted to share my favorites with you guys on the chance they can make your life a little easier!

          So, let’s take a look!

          Medela Contact Nipple Shields

          I had been lucky enough to have to wonderful friends who had becoming mommies a few months prior to me; and so, in spite of my embarrassment and shame for admitting I was already a fuck up as a mother(again, that was the ugly and hormonal side of my brain talking- I know that this isn’t true), I messaged them asking if they had any tips.

          After reassuring me that I was, in fact, not a POS, and that they had similar issues with their own children, they recommended these Nipple Guards.

          medela contact nipple shields

          While I decided that the best method for my baby and I was to pump and bottle feed him, those nipple guards were a godsend for the times I would spend trying to help my son latch and eat.

          Basically, they make it much easier for baby to latch, and it’s much less painful on your nips.

          Lansinoh Lanolin Nipple Cream

          Breastfeeding, and pumping is quite painful those first few days, so I strongly recommend buying a nipple cream to help soothe those puppies between feedings. The brand I used was Lansinoh because it happened to be the sample I received from the hospital, and it helps a lot.

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          However, from what I’ve seen, I’m pretty sure Lansinoh is the standard brand.

          I’ve not only found Lansinoh Lanolin Nipple Cream on Amazon, but also in most of the retail stores I frequent (in the baby section by any pumping supplies).

          Don’t skimp on the cream, these are the little ‘self-care’ steps that will make your recovery easier. You’re going to experience exhaustion physically and emotionally like you’ve never known, don’t add to it by neglecting your boob care.

          Medela PersonalFit Flex Breast Shields (AKA): The Correct Flange Size

          As I mentioned above, my main issue while learning to use my electric breast pump was that all of my hard-earned milk was leaking out all over my shirt (super awesome). After doing some research and asking another (more experienced) momma, I discovered that BOTH of the standard cup sizes provided by my insurance were too large.

          Unfortunately, this meant that I had to spend more money on a smaller size.

          On a side note: I don’t know if it was just my insurance that did that, but I think it’s RIDICULOUS that insurance companies wouldn’t supply you at least ONE sample of each size- just in case you aren’t one of the “standards”!

          … rant over…

          Anyway, I ordered the Medela PersonalFit Flex Breast Shields in a size 21mm flange, being that it was compatible with my pump (a Madela: pump in style advanced), and its more flexible design seemed like it would work better than the more traditionally rigid flanges.

          They solved my leaking problem right away.

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          Now the only thing I was left to struggle with was actually producing enough breastmilk for my son to eat…

          So I’ll tell ya about the supplements I have taken to aid in this.

          Dietary Breastmilk Supplements

          Your diet is a MAJOR factor in creating and keeping up your breast milk supply. You need to be incredibly hydrated because breastfeeding is very taxing on your body (hence why it burns all of those calories).

          You need to be eating enough, especially complex carbs (but, my dear friend, you’re going to have your hands full, so just eat what you can get for now and sate your appetite).

          You also need to drink tons of water. This was harder for me than expected, but that was mainly due to being distracted by, you know… caring for a precious little infant who relies on you for everything.

          It’s only kind of a big deal, I guess…

          Anyway, once you do your best to meet those above dietary requirements, there are HUNDREDS of supplements in the form of: teas, cookies, vitamins– you name it, to help stimulate milk production.

          Now, of course, you should also consult your healthcare professional before trying any supplement- blah blah blah.

          No, but seriously, Fenugreek (the main ingredient in one of the breast milk supplements I’m about to discuss) is still a foreign chemical in your body, and so you should consult you doctor and you pediatrician, before starting any of these supply enhancing supplements.

          Here are the supplements that I have used and like best…

          Mother Knows Best: Goat’s Rue Supplements

          I think I discovered the “Mother Knows Best: Goat’s Rue”  on social media somewhere, and after reading reviews (and having just finished my previous bottle of Fenugreek supplements), I decided to order it.

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          From what I have read here on WebMD, there isn’t enough known about Goat’s Rue for them to have any set side-effects. FYI, here’s the link where you can read more about this supplement on your own!

          More Facts About Goat’s Rue…

          I’ve been taking it for about 3 days now, and WOW. Even just after a few days, I’ve noticed that I’m able to pump 2-3 extra ounces of breast milk during my first-morning pump. This is very helpful, as my little guy is going through his 6-week growth spurt, and is practically insatiable.

          I’m also noticing about a 20-30% increase in each of my following pumps throughout the day. Going from an average of 3-4 oz per following sessions to about 4.5-6 oz.

          I’m obviously not going to guarantee these results for everyone. Firstly, I’m not a doctor or a professional lactation consultant(obviously), but also because my body is uniquely me, so the stuff I am recommending may not have the same effect for everyone.

          UpSpring Milkflow: Chocolate Flavored Breastfeeding Supplement

          The Upspring brand has been a huge help in my post-partum life. Not only do I drink their UpSpring Milkflow: Chocolate Milk Flavored Breastfeeding Supplement, but they were also the brand of C-Section recovery control underwear that I bought after I got home from the hospital (which I CANNOT recommend enough if you’ve had a C-section- they helped me SO MUCH).

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          Here is the Amazon link to the recovery panties in case you’re interested: UpSpring Baby C-Panty C-Section Recovery Panty.

          Honestly, if you don’t mind my opinion, I would strongly suggest ordering these around your due date JUST IN CASE.

          You never really know what your birth will be like, I’m living proof. There was absolutely no sign that I would need to have a C-Section literally until an hour before I got one.

          Having recovery underwear will be a huge help in shrinking your uterus back to its normal size, regardless of whether you end up having a C-Section or not.

          Now, back to the chocolate milk!

          breast milk supplements

          This chocolate milk supplement from UpSpring is fantastic. It is also a huge contributor to my milk supply improvement, and it DOES actually taste quite good. I would say I can’t really tell the difference between drinking this and a regular cup of instance hot chocolate.

          It says you can drink it hot or cold, but I prefer it hot. It is also not super high in calories(60 per serving) so it isn’t going to make it harder for you to get back to your pre-preggo body.

          I would say that the only thing that can be a little frustrating about taking either of these supplements (in my personal experience), is that I do notice a drop in supply if I happen to run out and can’t take them for a few days. So, I just need to make sure I am always stocked up.

          The one thing I would like to note are a few of the possible side-effects that can accompany taking Fenugreek for you and your baby. In fact, I might be experiencing one of these effects which might force me to stop taking the stuff, in spite of how helpful it has been in increasing my supply.

          Some of the side effects include: body-odor, gastrointestinal issues like gas, diarrhea, etc, and some people might have an allergic reaction. Here is a link to the full list of symptoms that you can take a look at…

          More Facts About Fenugreek Seed…

          The reason I am holding off on taking it for a few days is that I found out that Fenugreek can also cause gas problems for your baby- and my little guy’s biggest gripe is gas bubbles. It seems like no matter how much we burp him, he usually has at least one super crummy gas bubble pain every other day.

          So, I’m taking a small break to see if not taking Fenugreek will improve that!

          My Personal Feeding Choice

          Now, as I mentioned above, I have chosen to exclusively pump and bottle feed my baby. This was because, even in spite of the helpful nipple guards, my boy just preferred a bottle.

          He had gotten so used to it early on that he just was a happier baby on the bottle. And I felt that it was more important that he was happy than me worrying about my insecurities about ‘being successful at breastfeeding’. I do not regret it.

          breast feeding tips

          I just also find that bottle-feeding fits my lifestyle better. It has made it possible for my husband to help with nighttime feedings (making my recovery much easier since I was availed that precious extra time to rest at night) and he can also enjoy that bonding experience with our boy.

          I can also keep track of exactly what he is eating, and it helps me know his eating patterns and how they’re fluctuating as he gets older. This gives me peace of mind because, when I would breastfeed him, this kid would “eat” for 20-45 minutes, and still not seem satisfied.

          It was as if he had been eating so long, fading in and out of sleep, that he’d forget he had eaten. As with all newborns, he was a notoriously sleepy boy, so he’d fall asleep on my breast constantly, and no amount of prodding, tickling, wiping with wet cloths, burping (etc) made a difference.

          Even now I still need to supplement with formula sometimes, but it’s very rare, and its usually when he has hit a little growth spurt and suddenly decides to eat double his usual amount!

          Now, I have discovered since becoming a mother, that there is a lot of controversy in regards to “how you should be feeding your kid“. From: “Breast is Beast” to “Fed Is Best”, there seems to be a culture that may think my decision is the wrong one.

          Frankly, they’re not my child. So I really don’t care if someone would accuse me of “not trying hard enough”. My goal is to care for my precious child, and I feel SO FORTUNATE that I’m even able to produce breast milk AT ALL!

          I know that there are mommies that may not be able to pump or breastfeed, so I truly think that every mommy is doing their very best, and that as long as your baby is eating, gaining weight, and your pediatrician is giving you a clean bill of health… who the fuck cares whether you’re breastfeeding or formula feeding?

          Don’t get me wrong, there is a part of me that is sad and disappointed that it didn’t work out the way that I imagined… but the positives have far outweighed the negatives for my family. I’m too busy focusing on how blessed I am to have such a perfect and healthy little baby to devote any time to self-depreciating thoughts.

          It’s totally okay if there are mommies who don’t agree with me! I respect that, but I’m not here for the mommies who have it all figured out…

          I’m here for the fellow mommies that might just need someone to say out loud that it’s okay to feel really frustrated and stressed… and that your family is going to be just fine.

          Do You, Beautiful Mama. It’s Not Gonna Be Okay… It’s Going To Be GREAT.

          The most important thing to remember, no matter what kind of breastfeeding trouble you might go through (if at all), as long as your baby is fed, fat and healthy, then that’s all that should matter.

          breast feeding tips

          Feed your baby, whether that needs to be with formula, or not. If you decide feeding formula exclusively is better for your situation, than talk to your doctor about the best options for your baby and do it.

          Your baby will be fine, and your emotional and physical health needs to be one of your priorities if you want to be a happy and healthy mamma. Your baby needs you to be healthy and happy, too. They’re so tuned in with you, and whatever can help alleviate your stress, will help alleviate your baby’s stress, too.

          Being a mom means the last thing you think about are your needs, and your limits- hell, the fact that you’re still just a human being trying to figure this all out (hence why I named my blog L2Mom).

          But you need to make a concerted effort to do what is best for both of you.

          All of the hard stuff gets easier and easier…

          You’ll acclimate to this new life, and your child is going to be the most amazing thing you will ever lay your eyes on. Even the toughest moments won’t compare to the joy in your heart when you look at your kid.

          And it’s okay to be afraid, and it’s okay to be overwhelmed. You are a human, giving birth doesn’t change that, and you and your partner will need time to adjust to your new life just as your baby does.

          Your love for each other will grow and push you through it. The bond you will build watching one another become parents is beautiful, and priceless.

          Watching yourself accomplish each of those tiny successes day-by-day will make it easier to deal with the tougher stuff.

          While none of our situations will ever be exactly the same, I really hope that this post has provided not just a sense of awareness, but comfort and reassurance that you are not alone if you struggle with breastfeeding. Don’t worry, because you and your wonderful baby will be okay.

          Now, if you’ll excuse me… I can see that my own precious miracle is about to squeal his little lungs out via my baby monitor, so I’m ready to go enjoy some baby cuddles.

          Talk to you soon!

          XOXOXO

          Hello, Fellow Moms

          welcome to my mommy blog

          where I share my journey as a new mom in hopes that it might help other noobs like me!

          Hey there!

          My name is Mikenzi (you can call me Kenz). I’m a freelance writer, and more importantly (and pertinently) I’m a very happy new mommy!

          I gave birth to my son, Jake, on November 10th, 2019!

          He came into this world perfectly healthy and beautiful, and his daddy and I couldn’t be more in love with him. (That’s us on the left (duh), both looking equally thrilled to be on camera)

          I never thought I would be a “mommy blogger“, but after 32-hrs of an induced labor that ended in a C-section… I started to think that maybe some of my stories I’ve attained while learning 2 mom could be helpful to other new moms who might be feeling as overwhelmed, confused, and anxious as I was (understatement of the year award goes to…).

          Along with the unbelievable miracle it is be a mommy, and the indescribable love that I feel so fortunate to experience thanks to my amazing little son, I also wanted to talk about all of the unbeautiful things about being a mom that I have experienced.

          Now, I am not doing this to complain or undervalue the absolute joy and happiness that motherhood truly is, but instead to share stories and experiences that made me feel afraid and overwhelmed while it’s all still fresh, so that other moms who might be feeling the same things don’t feel alone.

          I realized that I have never felt such great strength, and the total humility of being just a human-being like I have since becoming a mother.

          The pressure of motherhood I feel is both a privilege, and very FUCKING scary.

          While I was expecting all of the basic “mom stuff” people warn you about: no sleep, no time, the stress of a baby who is crying and you have no idea how to fix it.

          … but what I was not prepared for the stuff that was going to swirl around inside of me. The effort it took to not just grapple with my postpartum body as someone who has always had body image issues, but also with the raging hormones and the existential terror of trying to be a healthy and constructive role model for my little guy.

          I wanna talk about it.

          I wanna talk about it, and laugh about it, and make light of tough shit because, well… that how I cope with most of my anxiety.

          (I guess some things will never change…)

          I wanna talk about this stuff… even if the only person it helps is me

          So, fellow moms, I hope that the time you spend here will be a soothing one. I hope to build a community for moms where we can talk about our tough stuff, our triumphs, and everything in-between.

          I’ll end this by saying: you’re kid is SUPER CUTE, YOU are SUPER GORGEOUS, and that YOU are doing a GREAT JOB!

          Happy New Year!

          -Jake’s Mom